A “New” New Year’s Resolution
December 15, 2005 by Barb Scala
Filed under Articles, sanity savers
Dr. Dale, licensed psychologist who appears on the TODAY Show, joins us with her ongoing column Sanity SaversTM for a BALANCED Life.
The Same Ole’ New Year’s Resolution
New Year’s Resolutions are often about committing to an exercise program, losing those extra 20 lbs, or stopping smoking. While all of these are likely be terrific for your health, are usually begun with great promise and enthusiasm, and are made with the hope that your life will be better, funny thing is that often our New Year’s resolutions from one year to the next are exactly the same.
A “New” New Year’s Resolution
How about making this year the year of a different kind of resolution? Changing our attitude about something or someone (including ourselves) can be a refreshing start to the New Year. So often our attitudes remain unchanged and unchallenged; we never question whether they still serve us well or if they restrict us, holding us back.
Attitude Adjustment can Enhance our Lives Immeasurably
How many times have your own or other people’s opinions prevented you from doing or trying something? “I always wanted to go skydiving but my friends will think I’m crazy.” “I would like to take an art class but I can’t draw.” “I would like to learn to play the piano but I was never very good at it when I was a kid.” “I would like to travel but I don’t have a companion.” “I would like to dance but don’t have a partner.”
Sanity Savers
By changing our attitude we can try things we thought we were “unable” to do and have experiences that will open our minds to incredible possibilities. Here are some Sanity Savers to help you get started to change your attitude.
- No Challenge. No Change. - If you don’t give yourself a challenge there can be no change and without change there is no growth. Ask yourself, “How can I be continually challenged?”
- Meet People who are Different from You - Step out and don’t limit yourself to your usual group (age, culture, race). Find those with similar interests but who are from different backgrounds. Meet and be with people who are both younger and older than you. Learn from their experiences.
- You’re Never Too Old or Young to Change Your Self Image - Daily events fluctuate and influence your ability to stay focused, adaptable, happy and positive. The stronger and more resilient your self image, the better equipped you are to deal with all of what life presents.
- Be Aware of your Patterns - When we don’t notice our patterns we get in our own way. How can we possibly move forward in life if we are bound by behavior or images that elude us?
- Be Conscious and Present –By being fully aware, we can accept, reject or change that which we don’t want into something that can be helpful and productive.
- Be Eager for Personal Growth - Seek knowledge, adventure and friendship. Do not confine yourself to a familiar road, traveling along paths others have gone or mapped out for you. Leave the familiar path from time to time. Be adventurous. Find your element; never stop searching. Continue your quest in life. It is all about growth!
- Be Resilient - Even if you have experienced a serious set back or loss, it is part your life’s story. You can integrate all of it. Just as a forest is replanted after extensive logging, resilient people figure out ways to adapt to what has been taken from them by time and/or circumstance.
- Find Your True Self Worth - All of us have value. No matter how great or small your public recognition and reputation. True self worth comes from your personal inner resources and appreciation of your own self.
- Maintain a Good Self Image- Combine flattery and critical self-analysis. Don’ t waste time or energy putting yourself down. Update the scripts of your life to re-emphasize the world of your core values.
New Beginnings Holiday Social
December 1, 2005 by Barb Scala
Filed under self discovery
Wondering how you’re going to celebrate the holidays as a single person? Will your holiday spirit change because you’re going through a divorce or recovering from one? How will you split time with the kids this holiday season? Whether thinking about divorce, in the process or post divorce, we all wrestle with these questions this time of year.
Don’t sit in despair! GET OUT and come to the New Beginnings Holiday Social. Share your plans and get creative tips on how to joyfully celebrate the holidays. Have some fun and spread some cheer!
Led by:
Barbara Scala
BloomTM Founder and Women in Transition Life Coach
info@bloomonline.com
203.292.3790
An informal gathering at:
V Restaurant
1460 Post Rd. East, Westport, CT
Tuesday, December 13th, 7:30pm Call New Beginnings at 203.259.5596 for more information.
Diamond Club: For Single Professional Women
December 1, 2005 by Barb Scala
Filed under self discovery
If you’re a single professional woman, the Diamond Club is the place for you!
The Diamond Club for Women invites single, successful professional women to a unique forum that promotes professional and personal growth and networking opportunities.
Join us in a series of Business Coaching teleconferencing sessions featuring the following topics. Select which sessions best fit your needs and dial in from anywhere!
- Balance is in the Eye of the “Beholdee”
Topic:Work/Life Balance - Dealing with Challenging People
Topic:Dealing with Those who Push our Buttons! - Considerations for Transition
Topic: Career and Life Transitions
Sessions start December 6th!
See schedule and register by clicking below or call 914.835.5444
www.t21consulting.com/Diamondclub.html
Cost:
1 Discussion $20.00
3 Discussion Package $50.oo
9 Discussions (3 Sessions of 3) $135.00